@crc762 - to begin with, and not to be too harsh, I just wanted to address this quote
"Leaving my wife with no peace of mind and a whole house to move by herself is not something I'm comfortable with."
If you aren't comfortable with that, sorry to say it, but this is just the begining. There's going to be a WHOLE lot more that woman is going to have to do on her own without you there if you make it through. Thats the next big thing I want to address. There is a large chance you don't make it through, I hope you do, but just being honest here, so you might want to think how you go about this. I'm not sure where you both are from orig. and how far you are from san diego, but you have a few options in my point of view.
1- Find a place in SD to rent and have your wife pack up all of your stuff and she can drive it out to san diego maybe with a family member or a friend. Honestly, I did it on my own, its not that bad, she may b**ch about it a bit but, in the long run, like I said, its just the begining and she'll be fine and so will you. That way you will have her there and not have to worry about it when your starting BUDs.
2- Wait to see how you do. If you don't make it through, you don't even after to worry about it. I'm not saying necisarrily waiting until you get pinned, but maybe until you get through pool comp. Then you could even try to fly home on a friday and you two could drive all night friday sat and sunday (depending again where you are coming from)
San Diego is a amazing place to live. She'll have a wonderful time there while you are going through hell
Not sure if this helps if even at all. The biggest thing I would have to say is your wife is going to have to get used to doing pretty much everything on her own. Its not a bad thing, its just the way it is. It 100% is a adjustment for both spouses, and you just have to work together to figure out how to make things work. Good luck to you and your wife, and good luck at BUDs
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